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quarantine faves: september 2020

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Another month of pseudo-quarantine in the books. We’re still settling in to the new condo, I’m still mainlining the Crimetown podcast archives. Unfortunately the weather has started to turn, which is always a bummer because I love long days and sunburns, and it also signals the impending seasonal affective disorder. I’m a person who is so attuned to the sun that even the slightest cool breeze will send me crashing into the valley of depression.

So in that spirit, here are some of my new favorite attention-holders!

Saint + Sofia: This British fashion brand was a GAME CHANGER. For a lot of reasons, I’ve been looking for some new pants that work as well as my trusty C9 black leggings, and after hours of specific Google searching, their Plimco Pant was a suggestion. They have sizes up to US 18 and three different inseam lengths(!!!) so I ordered the suggested Plimco as well as the Runway pants. They are incredible. Both pair are perfect for just relaxing and quarantining at home, but professional enough to wear to work. ~*~ And they have pockets! ~*~ Everything they carry is really cute and looks like it will work both for lounging and for going out, and it’s super affordable.

The Ordinary Vampire Mask: Everyone has heard of this peel by now, and it’s sold out basically everywhere on the internet. After months of complaining about the bumpy texture along my jawline (thanks hormones) and being recommended this product by my friends, I finally tracked some down at the Deciem store in Wicker Park. The hype is real on this one. After one treatment, the bumps are almost totally gone. Hallelujah.

Recliner.NYC Pajamas: I went through a period of wanting some really fancy, expensive pajamas, and these were the ones I landed on. I got a sleep dress as well as a t-shirt and shorts set and they are so comfortable, so lightweight, and so buttery. They have some cooling material in them, too, which is great for hot sleepers like me. They’re my new favorite comfy clothes, and I can’t stop telling everyone to buy them.

Living Libation Tooth Serum: Since I have pretty severe TMD, it can be hard to open my mouth wide enough to comfortably brush, especially in the mornings. These tooth serums have been such a savior, especially in the mornings when my jaws are often locked the most. I drop a few of these into my mouth, swish around, and while it’s not an exact substitute for brushing, it gets my teeth and breath fresh enough.

Showerhead: One of the first things we did in the new condo was switch out the old builer-grade showerheads. This one by Waterpik makes me feel so fancy – the showerhead has different settings, and the detachable “water comb” is great for massaging sore joints or running it through my hair.

Invisibobble Waver: I don’t think that the little baby hairs at the base of my skull will ever really grow out to be tucked in to a ponytail or bun and I’ve finally made peace with that through headbands and bobby pins. But bobby pins are always annoying and I somehow never get them to stay in properly, and these clips solve that problem.

Untitled Goose Game: I love a silly game, and since we got the Nintendo Switch a few months ago, the Untitled Goose Game has been such a fun way to escape real life. HONK

Brooklinen Classic Duvet: Another upgrade for the new condo, the Brooklinen classic duvet cover combined with an Ikea “cooling” filler has been heavenly. It feels like we’re sleeping on a cloud. (And, bonus, Brooklinen is a woman-owned company!)

Have you found any new favorites to keep you entertained through quarantine?

September 25, 2020
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design mood: desert rose

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In furnishing our new condo, I keep finding myself drawn to different moods for each room in the house. Theming around an idea or concept has really helped me to not go color-crazy everywhere and stay more focused and intentional on decorative accents vs. functional pieces.

Today’s design mood is Desert Rose – dreaming about Palm Springs sunshine, cactus-lined roadways, and laid back vibes.

Aelfie Abstract Vase Hand-Knotted Rug / west elm Bohemian Desert Sun Round Mirror / Chasing Paper Palm Springs wallpaper / Calhoun + Co. Camel Ride in Desert knit throw blanket / Mar Mar Other Desert Cities candle / Serena & Lily Nest Chair / Parachute Women’s Waffle Lounge Set / Inlay Mugs – Tan Neutrals / Artiplanto Solo Artificial Cactus / Sydney Left Nightstand / Desert Days Planter / Sunset Throw Pillow

August 28, 2020
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remote jobs for introverts

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text on image: remote jobs for introverts

Introverts aren’t “shy,” which is a common misperception. It also doesn’t necessarily mean that someone doesn’t like to be around people, or that we’re antisocial. But that image has been so ingrained and associated with the introvert personality that it’s hard to overcome now, and trying to find jobs or work environments or jobs that will suit your work personality – but also leave you with some energy at the end of the day for your own projects or activities.

Working remotely has been a game changer for me, and for many others in the I-personality types, HSPs, or other general introverted personalities.

I’m not going to pretend that “become a blogger!” or “just become a writer” are viable money-making options for most workers. You have to be amazingly lucky to become a millionaire blogger, and a lot of things have to go right (and a lot of time needs to be spent) to refine writing skills.

Freelancing isn’t a great option either – many introverts can be risk-averse and the idea of constantly pitching, looking for the next job, and long wait times to get payment (plus the labor of chasing down the check) make it less than desirable way to make a living.

Working remotely isn’t for everyone, though – you have to have high standards for yourself, create your own office setting, and keep yourself accountable. But it also means there can be fewer interpersonal distractions, which makes it really desirable for introverts. If you’re stuck feeling like you’ll never be as successful at work as you want to be because your environment isn’t conducive to producing your best work, consider looking to transition into roles like these – many of which don’t require a special certification, or can be self-taught with online resources. Here are a few titles to look for, and some companies that are hiring now!

UX Designer: One of the best industries for empaths and introverts is UI/UX design. We can often put ourselves in the shoes of other people easily, often to our own detriment, but it can pay off when sketching out user stories or customer personas. These positions blend technical concepts with layouts and human behavior, which often pay off when combined with introvert tendencies.
Currently hiring: UI/UX Designer at TwentyOverTen.

Customer Support: It might sound counterintuitive that customer service is good for introverts, but when support is offered through email and live chat portals rather than phones or in-person interaction, much of the pressure is removed. The way many introverts can easily establish a repoire with customers through these outlets makes them great candidates for these positions – and can help with some of the emotional energy zaps that hands-on service can excise.
Currently hiring: Customer Experience Agent at Rhone, Customer Support Advocate at Airtable

Accounting: Accounting is a pretty largely autonomous position in most companies, which makes it ideal for people who prefer to work on their own. In small-to-mid-size companies, you might even be the only person in the department, which means you can even structure your day and interactions around what works best for you. (It’s also a position that could eventually lead you to owning your own business, if that’s something you wanted!)
Currently hiring: Finance Operations Manager at ConvertKit.

Looking for an empowering community of women in technology? Check out Tech Ladies for networking opportunities, exclusive job openings, and fun local events!

User Research: Similar to UX Design, this field involves testing concepts, running user tests, and writing scripts to run through product changes. Working from a script, these employees might interview focus groups, opt for one-on-one testing (which can also be done remotely with tools like UserTesting.com), research similar product and their target audiences, and create personas for existing and potential user bases.
Currently hiring: Sr. User Researcher at Crowdstrike.

Test Scorer: Companies like Pearson hire distributed employees, both full-time and seasonally, to score things like practice tests, ACTs, or other essay responses. Cozy up at your dining room table with a coffee and some focus music, and break out the red pen. Since there are no cubicle-mates and the scoring guidelines means it’s a relatively low-pressure job for someone who prefers to work more independently.
Currently hiring: Professional Scorer at Pearson.

January 8, 2020
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mailing lists to subscribe to while planning your wedding

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mailing lists to subscribe to while planning your wedding

It’s no surprise that weddings are expensive, and any way to reduce spending is well appreciated by everyone. (Well, everyone except perhaps this bride.) To protect my inbox (and my sanity,) when I started planning, I set up a dedicated inbox to use for communicating with vendors or people involved in planning to keep everything better organized and all in one place. I highly recommend doing this! Whether you have a domain-based email for your wedding website, or just create a new, free Gmail address, it cuts down the disorganization and crazy-making promotional emails in your main inbox.

Especially with Black Friday/Cyber Monday coming up, it’s a good time to set that inbox up and subscribe to any stores or vendors you’ve been eyeing products from. You never know if they’ll choose this month to deeply discount your perfect wedding band or aisle rugs!

Be sure to sign up for eBates as well to earn cash back on all your online shopping!

Dresses, Suits, and Shoes

Jewelry

Decor

Stationery (Save-the-Dates, Invitations, Thank You Cards)

Some others that are worth subscribing to would be your venue, caterers, or photographers you’re interested in – you never know when they might get in the promo code for wedding game!

What mailing lists are you subscribing to to save some money on your wedding or reception?

October 27, 2019
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affordable plus size wedding dresses under $500

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Surprise – I’m getting married! I’ve been (sort of?) quietly dating my partner for two years, and over the summer, we got engaged. The wedding industry is toxic and wild – but that’s probably a rant for a different day. Rather than authoring another thinkpiece about it, I wanted to compile some posts I wish I’d been able to find as I started planning this out. It’s hard to find affordable dresses, plus size dresses that aren’t just cupcake-y and chiffon, and very much advice or ideas on how to plan a non-traditional wedding.

Of course David’s Bridal is always a good source of dresses for plus and straight sizes, but I found a lot of them to be pricier than I anticipated they’d be. As I continue to research and plan my wedding, I keep stumbling upon disparate lists of great plus size bridal gown choices, so I thought I’d organize some together and share them here today!

Floravere

They have an online sample sale running now!

Gallery dresses: J. JonesH. Golightly | D. Prince

Florave is an online startup that thinks carefully about their designs and details, and finds inspiration in fashionable celebrities. Their full-price dresses tend to be between $1500 and $3000, but there are some in a more budget-friendly range, like the K. Switzer. If you like a more classic silhouette, check them out for some affordable plus size wedding dress options!

BHLDN

Their sale section often has lots of affordable, under-budget options.

Gallery dresses: Fitzwater | Bethany | Sarita | JonesTinsley

Before I started wedding dress shopping, I imagined BHLDN to be wildly overpriced, like their sister store, Anthropologie. A few months into shopping and I now know they’re actually some of the more affordable options out there! In addition to their affordability, they’re also pretty size-inclusive, which also shocked me. They have gorgeous options, a range of designers, and sizes from 00 to 30. I did two store visits (with wildly different experiences each time,) but they’re definitely worth a look – right now, their sale section has pages of gorgeous options for under $500!

Amazon

Gallery dresses: Backless Mermaid Gown | Lace Mermaid Dress | Short V-Neck Dress With Applique | A-Line Beach Dress

I wish I had done more research on Amazon before buying my dress – I love it, but there are so many gorgeous options on Amazon for crazy, inexpensive prices. Many gowns are made up to size 26W and almost all sellers I’ve seen also offer custom size options. Purchasing a gown on Amazon and then getting any necessary alterations is almost certainly more inexpensive than many of the more popular plus size wedding dress lines!

Show Me Your Mumu

Check their sale section for inexpensive options!

Gallery dresses: Noelle Flutter | Jenn MaxiGrace Beaded Maxi

Show Me Your Mumu is one of my favorite stores, and their wedding lines are just as boho, California-casual as the rest of their line. With options for brides, maids, and guests up to size 3X, even their most expensive gown is under $400.

Nordstrom

Gallery dresses: Cutout Lace Sheath | Lace Bodice JumpsuitStrapless Metallic ChiffonFields Plunge Dress | V-Neck Evening Gown

Nordstrom does have a dedicated wedding dress shop, but with some creativity, you can also find some “regular” dresses that fit the bill. Setting the filters to “white” or “ivory” in a dress search opens up lots of options in both straight and plus sizes – and since they aren’t classified as “wedding” dresses, you’ll automatically see some lower prices.

Unique Vintage

Check their sale section for gorgeous plus size gowns!

Gallery dresses: Antique Ivory | Holly Dress | Strapless Lace Crystal

With sizes up to 5X, Unique Vintage was my biggest regret as far as not finding them in advance of buying my dress. Their styles range from Hepburn-inspired, ’20’s flappers, and 50’s rockabilly, to brides wanting more modern lace and fitted mermaid gown looks. Their sale section has many dresses under $100, and they often team up with other brands like Barbie for even more unique styles!

Torrid

Gallery dresses: Off Shoulder Tulle | Ponte and Chiffon Dress | Ivory Lace Formal

Torrid only recently started breaking into “special occasion” dresses for plus size women, growing their already stellar lineup of clothes. With price points below $200 and frequent discount codes, they’re a must-look for plus brides in search of a more casual wedding dress.

October 23, 2019
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